Unless you’re living under a rock — or you’re white — you’re probably aware of Steve Harvey’s best-seller, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.”
Well, I have some amazing insights that would make excellent fodder for my own self-help book. I’d follow along the lines of Mr. Harvey, only with a more provocative title:
“Act Like a Criminal …Think Like a Criminal’s Coddling Mother.”
I’ve been studying bad boys and bad girls for years — long before I became a mistress — and as a result, I have plenty of suggestions for anyone wanting to walk on the path to Hell wild side. They may be a bit unorthodox, but my tips are golden — trust me:
1. Watch a sh*tload of mafia movies
I first watched “The Godfather” trilogy when I was in middle school, and it forever altered my way of thinking. Now I’m a woman who’s a cross between Lorraine Bracco’s mafia wife in “Goodfellas” and Viggo Mortensen’s hitman in “A History of Violence.”
I mind my own business and would rather die than betray a friend’s trust. I’m capable of hiding a dead body or disposing of incriminating evidence cleaning up messes if need be, and I handle the shadiness I’m currently involved in, in an honorable manner.
So becoming well-acquainted with the likes of Al Pacino, Bob De Niro and Joe Pesci is a good first step toward eroding your morals self-improvement. Spend a week or two watching “The Godfather” movies, “Scarface,” “The Untouchables” and “Goodfellas.” Or for more recent mob films, check out “A History of Violence,” “The Departed” and “Eastern Promises.”
2. Blame Sheryl Crow for your bad behavior
Six years ago, she got dumped by her fiance Lance Armstrong because she wanted to have kids and he didn’t … and then a month later, she was diagnosed with breast cancer … and THEN after enduring all that, she recently found out she has a benign brain tumor.
But if you look past all of those gut-wrenching, sympathy-worthy details, you’ll clearly see that Sheryl Crow is a f*ckin’ troublemaker.
Need proof? Well, she wrote a song called “If It Makes You Happy,” and in that song, she states quite emphatically: If it makes you happy/ It can’t be that bad. (She also sings: If it makes you happy/ Then why the hell are you so sad? — but I choose to ignore that part.)
And then in “Strong Enough,” she insists over and over: Lie to me/ I promise/ I’ll believe — and later adds: But please/ Don’t leave.
How is an emotionally torn woman supposed to follow her common sense when she hears compelling lyrics like that accompanied by a really awesome musical arrangement?
Fine, Sheryl Crow, you win. We all just need to do stuff if it makes us happy and believe people’s lies so they won’t leave us.
So go ahead and eat as many hamburgers as you want, or try some Ecstasy pills at a rave, or trust politicians, oil companies and NBA commissioner David Stern — because a cancer survivor whose heart was broken by another cancer survivor says it’s OK to be a gullible thrill-seeker.
3. Watch out for the Linkedins of the world
Did you know that if you look at someone’s Linkedin profile, Linkedin will tell that person you looked at his or her page? I didn’t know that important piece of information until a friend told me about a month ago — and I’ve been pissed ever since.
I’m not sure if The Husband’s wife has a Linkedin profile, and given my stalker tendencies, I’m surprised I haven’t checked already but if she did, and I had viewed it, and snitchin’ Linkedin had ratted me out, that would’ve caused some major drama.
Basically, I dodged a bullet purely on luck, and as someone who takes pride in always being a step ahead of the game, I’m quite annoyed by that.
But let this be a lesson to everybody: If you’re going to be shady, you’ve got to minimize risks.
- Know whom you can trust.
- Don’t leave a paper trail, i.e. get rid of incriminating evidence ASAP.
- Limit how much alcohol/drugs you consume around random people (because you’re likely to slip up when you’re intoxicated).
- And for the love of God, don’t stalk a woman’s Linkedin page if you’re sleeping with her husband and you’re fairly certain she knows your name.
4. Prepare for your Lewinsky or Watergate
“The truth shall set you free.”
That saying was probably invented by a wife who wanted to trick her husband into admitting he was having an affair. And after he “set his truth free,” I bet she “set his a$$ on fire.”
Most of the time, everyone is better off if the truth stays locked up like a minority in a maximum security prison. But in all matters of naughtiness, getting exposed is a real possibility. So if the sh*t hits the fan, you need to be ready for your Bill Clinton or Richard Nixon epic fail.
I basically have mea culpa speeches prepared for my mom and The Husband’s mom and sister — the three people I’m most worried about hurting if my mistressing becomes public. I’ve outlined my reasons for not telling them sooner, added a lot of “I’m so sorrys” and sprinkled in a few “Feel free to curse me out or throw a drink on me” lines.
Acceptance and forgiveness are all I’ll want if my sins are exposed, but sadly I realize that no amount of planning can guarantee I’ll get either one of those things.
Think I’ll omit that kernel of truth from my book.